Do you know the difference between a real and a fake laugh? Can you recognize her? Here are some tips on how to distinguish between them and why it makes sense to laugh better than pretend a smile.
Those who can read minds have a magical ability, so to speak – and to decipher facial expressions is almost like reading minds. We talked about that in the last part of this little series. Those who can perceive, read and decipher the facial expressions of the other person can communicate more attentively and empathically with their fellow human beings. Today we want to look specifically at the facial expression of the emotion “joy”.
We have become accustomed to aligning ourselves with the collective, even though we live very much in egoism in our latitudes. In spite of everything, our society makes demands on us and in order not to fall too far out of the grid or to attract attention, there are social customs.
These are not always appropriate or helpful, but they have become naturalized. Who does not know that one is asked in the morning in the office hall, “How are you?” And if you ever come up with the idea and want to give an honest answer, we discover that our opposite takes flight even before we started with our descriptions.
What is a fake smile-Do you want to know if someone is really happy?
Very few people really take these and similar questions seriously and so we have gotten used to making a good face to the bad game. If the interest of the people has become a phrases, then we react at some point accordingly.
Our brain, and especially the emotion department, then tells us that he is better at showing something that is called “social smile” in the jargon. Here’s what happens:
The corners of the mouth go upwards and depending on how far they go up, wrinkles develop around the eyes, because the area of the cheeks pushes up through the pushed-up corners of the mouth.
You can try this very well once in front of the mirror: put down and corner of the mouth upwards. A little bit, sometimes stronger.
Now it is important to pay attention to how that feels. Is there a happy feeling? As a rule, this will not be the case, because real pleasure looks different.
how do you recognize a real smile?
The eye-ring muscle shows real joy When we are really happy, then the eyes radiate. The eyes laugh with real experienced joy. A reliable sign of real pleasure is the “starting” of the eye ring muscle. What does that mean in plain language?
There is a circular muscle around the eye and when it contracts – that is, it contracts – the cover fold of the eye lowers. This creates the smiles of the eyes and this muscular movement is reliable, to distinguish a laugh that springs from the real experience of joy, from a social smile.
Can you pretend a real smile?
Now you may be wondering why we do not just let our eyes laugh, to make others know that we are really happy and happy and happy? The answer is that only 10% of all people can consciously contract that muscle to simulate real pleasure.
Our mimic muscles are directly wired to our emotional center, the limbic system in the brain. Therefore, we show our feelings in the face. This wiring is not a one-way street, but works just in the other direction.
This means that the people who can deliberately influence the onset of the eye-ring muscle also have a feeling of genuine pleasure. In our case, however, the reliable impulse is missing and the mere pulling up of the corners of the mouth alone gives the brain an incomplete impulse.
False smile does not make you happier – but real smile
In this respect, studies have also shown that people who often show a social smile by profession, become more depressed, rather than thereby to be happy. It is best, therefore, to bring enough joyful situations in which one can laugh “right”. If these are missing, then you can look around the world.
Children often make you laugh or joke, as well as funny episodes on social networks or on Facebook. The mirror exercise can also help here or the self-timer function of the phone camera.
Look at what you look like when you’re just pulling the corners of your mouth up and how you look like when your eyes laugh with joy.
Recognize genuine laughter and become more empathic
This is what real laughter looks like If you recognize the difference in yourself with your practiced eye, then you can also perceive the difference in everyday life and thus make the first step in hall discussions in order to give them more value. Or to eliminate the “WiegehtsDir- Frage”, if it is not meant to be serious.
Because this is the key to magic! Empathy is created by sharpening perception and by knowing what the perceived can mean.
An empathic togetherness has a positive effect on the culture of conversation and that in turn de-stresses and prevents many conflicts!
Less conflicts and less stress in everyday life then make sure that you rob yourself less energy and thus can pay more attention to you and your health, because truly experienced joy that goes along with laughter supports this process manifold. Also Read tips to save coffee grounds from household waste
And now I wish you much success in the happy laughing and your first magical steps of mind reading.